While the books offer a rare glimpse inside a literary marriage, there is little Mars and Venus action here. It is made clear that these are two people who love each other (and love their children) very much. In past, Waldman was widely criticized for a piece in the New York Times ("Truly, Madly, Guiltily") where she maintained that her love for her children was secondary to her love for her husband.
Chabon's book is a collection of previously-published essays on varying aspects of manhood--everything from carrying a purse ("I Feel Good About My Murse") to the virtues of unsupervised time ("The Wilderness of Childhood"). Chabon is a master stylist and so the essays read smoothly, combining humorous insights with moments of poignancy. My husband felt compelled to read many a passage aloud to me.
Which was frustrating, because at the time I was engrossed by Waldman's engaging description of her own "bad" mothering. Her book, too, is a collection of essays, mostly about how difficult it is to live up to society's standards for motherhood. Waldman asks us all to extend a little forgiveness, giving each other the room to make mistakes doing what is a messy, complicated, and difficult job. While her trademark acerbic wit is ever-evident, I was reduced to tears more than once.
Cheaper than therapy and more intellectually-stimulating than the first season of Married, With Children, Chabon's and Waldman's books are an excellent choice for your two-person book club.
Charles Darwin was not given to rash decisions. When he was nearly thirty and needed to decide whether to marry, he sat down, drew a line down the middle of a piece of paper and made a list of pros and cons. On the plus side, marriage would offer the benefit of children ("if it Please God") and an object of affection, "better than a dog anyhow." On the minus side, he would miss the "conservation of clever men at clubs" and might not be able to read in the evenings.


\ləsh\ - adj: (1) growing vigorously; (2) appealing to the senses; (3) in dramatic style--noun: (1) a drunkard.

